Personal Development...

Are You Comfortable With Money?

2010-04-21T06:53:00.000-07:00

What is the first thing that you think about when you think of money?

Is it lack of? Not enough? Fear? Worry?

What is the first feeling you have when you think of money?

Is it panic? Do you get a pit in your stomach?

Often when people think of money, or a situation arises around money, their first reaction is fear or panic.

In order to attract more money - or situations and opportunities to create more money, you must line up your mind and your emotions to match having money.

Thoughts and feelings of lack, worry, fear, panic, are not lined up. These types of thoughts and feelings are just the opposite.

To be lined up with having more money, our thoughts and feelings must be ones of having enough, abundance, gratitude, and joyful expectation.

So how do we switch from feeling fear or lack to abundance and gratitude when everyday we are facing not having enough?

For most people, trying to move from fear and worry to abundance and expectation when it comes to money is just too big of a jump. The emotional distance between the two is just too great so many people are not able to close the distance.

A way to close the gap is to get comfortable with the idea and the feelings of having money. And there is a way to do it without actually having to have a handful of money!

If you use your thoughts to imagine and visualize, over time you become more comfortable around the topic you are thinking about.

Including money!

As you become more comfortable around a topic, it seems more natural to you, and your belief level around the topic increases.

If you remember back when you were learning to ride a bike, at first it was hard and you had to focus intensely on what you were doing. But once you learned how to ride it became easy - natural.

Or remember when you were first learning to read. At first nothing made sense, it was hard and foreign. But again, once you knew how to read it became easy and natural. When you read now you can zip along without giving it any thought about how your mind is processing the words on the paper.

Or have you ever driven anywhere completely lost in thought and after you reached your destination you realize that you didn't even notice the drive. You got there on autopilot.

Once something becomes known to the subconscious mind, it becomes natural and easy. The same applies with money - create a new comfort zone around money in your mind and it becomes a way of life. Just like riding a bike.

So how do we become comfortable around money when we don't have any?

Start by relaxing and getting comfortable. Then create a movie in your mind around money that puts you and lots of money together in a fun and relaxed way.

Maybe you are in a bank vault tossing money into the air. Maybe you sitting in your living room surrounded by gold bars. Maybe you are in the back of a security truck full of money rolling around in it.

Or maybe your are having a 'money fight' - throwing rolls of million dollar bills at someone.

Whatever situation you make up make sure you make it fun, and make sure you are surrounded with lots and lots of money.

Replay your mind movie as often as you can. The more you imagine and visualize yourself with lots of money, the faster your mind with be more comfortable with the idea of lots of money.

And once your mind is comfortable around money, it will create a new belief about money, and heaven and earth will start to move to make your new belief a reality.

Karen Walker is a mindset and money coach, speaker, author, and trainer, who teaches attraction business & marketing strategies to conscious entrepreneurs who want to make 6-7 figures while working less & having fun! For free tips and resources on transforming your business, visit: Activate Abundance

The Law of Attraction - Inspirational Quotes!

2010-04-20T03:27:00.000-07:00

Much has been written about the Law of Attraction. I think the movie "The Secret" had a lot to do with that as well. When we are self-empowered, we feel inspired. Being inspired and in a sense of inspiration, can actually change lives and in many cases actually create miracles. I could write chapters around each of these quotes, but for now ...

Here Are 10 of The Best Law of Attraction Quotes I Have Collected:

1 - "Have an Attitude of Gratitude in all that you do."
2 - "Energy flows where attention goes."
3 - "Do not give others the chance to create your happiness."
4 - "Success is something you attract."
5 - "Wherever you are, be there."
6 - "Don't leave the game unplayed."
7 - "Stand tall in your own eyes."
8 - "Don't major in minor things."
9 - "Language, it says a lot about you."
10 - "To have more, you have to become more."

At the very heart of the Law of Attraction are a few major principles. Your Attitude of Gratitude is that reciprocal energy force at work, you get what you give. Be grateful daily for the smallest of things. Give to others easily and receive things with greater ease. Giving and receiving are energy forces at work. Just look to nature, the sun and rain gives way to growth and prosperity. Giving and receiving is that reciprocal energy force I mentioned.

Your emotional intelligence keeps you calm and grounded. Your level of empathy and compassion are the heart and soul of you emotional intelligence. If you don't feel empathy and compassion for others on a regular basis, your EI needs some work and the Law of Attraction works best with a strong emotional intelligence.

Clarity and focus, knowing what you want, and being able to articulate the details. If you desire a new house, new career, weight lose, more money or a new relationship. Paint a picture, fill it with all the details. Paint a picture with words first, and you'll really start to see what you want. Seeing it clearly is important. And remember, the focus is only on what you want, never on what you don't want. Any negatives must be removed from this process. Everything in your picture has to be positive. It's easy to have random thoughts of what you desire, however, it's best to create real pictures of those things. Then you can look at your pictures and the focus becomes very very clear.

In short, the Law of Attraction works best when using actual pictures of the things you desire most!

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Mike Perras is a retired media executive and college professor. He writes regularly for the Sensuous Gratitude blog.

His latest ebook on the subject is called "The Law of Attraction through Sensuous Gratitude"In it he discusses how the movie The Secret misses the most important piece of the puzzle. Why? Because, "being clear" first, is paramount to your Law of Attraction success. You'll see how this simple technique will change how you see everything.

Limiting Beliefs Keep the Law of Attraction From Working For You

2010-04-19T04:50:00.000-07:00

Lately I have been hearing a lot of people saying that they are giving up on the Law of Attraction (LOA). They are tired of hearing about it, tired of the thousands of websites, seminars and self improvement programs promising the moon and the stars with the LOA because it just does not seem to work for them.

The truth is, the Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working, it is Universal Law, but if you are not vibrating in the energetic vicinity of what you desire, you are not going to get it. When people are not getting what they want, they think the Law of Attraction does not work. But sorry, folks, there is no getting out of Universal Law. It is working; you are just not allowing it to work in your favor.

Another reason people don't want to hear about the Law of Attraction is because they don't want to be responsible for their own lives. They find it easier to blame others for everything that happens to them or blame some cruel God who punishes us for our sins.

I also think the recent turn from focus on the Law of Attraction by many whom have been teaching it for a long time now is that the LOA just IS. It's like gravity, and we don't talk about gravity all day long trying to figure out how to use it to our advantage in our lives. We don't go around trying to "invoke" gravity. We just KNOW it IS and act accordingly. Why keep talking about it and trying to get it to work for us? It already is working for us. People don't have to know anything about gravity to stay planted on the ground, nor do they need to know of or believe in the Law of Attraction to attract like energy. It's a given.

Before the term "Law of Attraction" became so popular, I learned it as the "Law of Love" or the "Law of Divine Orchestration". It is only in recent years that Law of Attraction has become the buzz phrase for this Universal Law.

There is no doubt that like energy and vibration attracts like energy and vibration; that is the proven scientific explanation. But spiritually, the explanation is that Divine Super Intelligence loves us unconditionally and wants to give us what we want. So to make it easy, and not overwhelming like Jim Carey in Bruce Almighty, Source let us be our own self sufficient creators, each of us holding the power that creates worlds within us. Why would we ever think/feel/vibrate anything that we don't want knowing that we are powerful creators who create our reality with our thoughts/feelings/vibration? Like duh!!! But there is a reason why we hold ourselves back.

For me the focus has more shifted from concentrating on the Law of Attraction to focusing on the beliefs we have acquired during our lifetime, some of them outdated and limiting, and re-wiring those to match what we truly want.

Our beliefs filter our perception of life, how we see ourselves and others. Our beliefs are there to protect us and keep us safe; we created them early on when we observed something and made a decision about it. Or maybe we heard someone say something like "You will never amount to anything", or "Don't eat that, you will get fat," or "You have to work hard to make money," and boom, a belief is born. Our forming brains soaked it up like a sponge and made it true for us. But what we thought we needed to keep us safe as children is no longer valid as adults, especially as we evolve and expand. We need to learn to adjust and amend and re-wire until our beliefs match our desires so that we get what we desire by Divine Universal Law.

It doesn't take rocket science to figure out where you are vibrating on any given subject. Just look at your bank account, your relationships, your career. What you are getting is what you are vibrating. Every time. And if you are not getting what you want, you have beliefs that are keeping you where you are. Bust the limiting beliefs and you are free!

If you are saying positive affirmations, created a vision board, visualize and keep a lucky charm in your pocket but you are still not manifesting your desires, you have subconscious limiting beliefs that say "no you can't, no you aren't, it's not going to happen," that sabotage your positive actions. All the affirmations in the world are not going to work if your underlying core belief is that you are not worthy of your dreams.

Why do we ever not follow our dreams? Why do we limit ourselves and justify and settle? Sometimes beliefs are so ingrained and so a part of who we are, we don't even realize they are there and that they are limiting us. But if you not living the life of your dreams, you definitely have limiting beliefs holding you back from being the unlimited being that you truly are. Let's bust em up now!

There are many ways to bust your limiting beliefs:

It is helpful to first identify your limiting beliefs. One way to identify them is to become a conscious thinker. Become observant to your thoughts. Become present and in the moment to what you are thinking about. Notice and observe your thoughts instead of just letting them run on and on. Stop yourself and think about what you are thinking! The background running thoughts that we think without thinking are the subconscious mind running our core patterns and beliefs.

Our conscious mind says, "I am happy, wealthy and healthy, see I even wrote it one hundred times and cut out pictures about it!" And our subconscious mind says, "Oh, no, you're not, remember that time they told you that you are stupid and would never amount to anything?" And the subconscious dominate belief wins.

Become a conscious thinker and notice when your mind chatter is saying "I'm not good enough, I can never do that, I'll never have a lot of money." When you notice those thoughts, don't get upset with yourself. Just gently bring your thoughts to positive statements such as, "I am worthy, The Universe is loving and supports me, I am abundant in all ways." With time and repetition, you will start to believe them.

The key here is focus and repetition. Repetition rewires. You can literally rewire the neurons in your brain to create a new path that connects to new core beliefs. Dr. Joe Dispenza of What the Bleep? fame says it takes seventeen days to rewire the neurons in your brain to create to new core beliefs and habits.

I love to use RAPs (Repetitive Audio Programs) for fast and efficient rewiring. RAPs are selected affirmations repeated over and over while you meditate or sleep. When you are in a theta brain wave state, your subconscious is open to receive new information without resistance, making for fast and easy reprogramming. I put on the mp3 before I go to sleep, and then all night the recorded statements are seeping into my subconscious, rewiring my beliefs while I dream. This is my kind of rewiring!

The only problem with repetitive programs is that some people don't stick with them. They do it for a few days or a week, declare it doesn't work and then go looking for the next speaker or seminar or book to give them the answer. The problem is, wherever you go, there your beliefs are.

People will also find that resistance can come up after a short while of using a repetitive program. As we are reprogramming our core beliefs, events or emotions come up that need to be released and it can become a bit uncomfortable, so we stop using them.

Be patient, give yourself a break, you have been running these patterns and beliefs for most of your life and the prize you get for releasing them and replacing them is well worth the effort. After all, it's your life!

Another very effective method for releasing limiting beliefs and old emotional baggage is the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). EFT uses the energy meridian points on your body, the same ones used for acupuncture. You simply tap on these points in order while going through a sequence of statements that relate to your issue. I have seen miraculous results using EFT and have added it to my coaching practice because it is so quick and easy. EFT is becoming more and more popular as people discover its powerful and rapid belief release abilities.

While I have not yet explored it myself, I have heard great things from people I highly respect about using the Sedona Method for releasing limiting beliefs, so I mention it here.

Hypnotherapy is also great for easily getting to your core beliefs and replacing them with new ones. You can visit a qualified hypnotherapist or even find a self hypnosis program that will guide you into a relaxed theta state and then feed you some new beliefs to hang onto.

Do some research and follow your inner guidance and intuition to find which method will work best for you. It might be one or a combination of them. YOU will know what is best for you. Trust your guidance and what calls to you.

All these methods are great for helping you to release limiting beliefs that no longer serve you, however they are in addition to, and do not take the place of, becoming, right NOW, the person you want to be. Step right into who you really are, your true authentic self. Limitless. Free. Joyful. Abundant. Loving. Be happy now, appreciate what you have now, start to live out your dreams now!

How would you feel if you were living your dreams right now? What would you do? How would you walk, talk, be? Stop seeking and start BEING. Be it NOW, and be it consistently, and watch your limiting beliefs fall away fast! Talk about instant vibrational alignment!

Surround yourself with people who support you in your new beliefs. Get a life coach who will guide you into your dreams and be your cheerleader. Join or form a master mind group where you all support and hold each other in the vision of who you really are. Join positive groups that are aligned with your vision. There is big power in numbers. Take constant inspired action steps towards your dreams. Let go of blame, anger, old emotions and baggage that no longer serve you. Follow your heart and intuition. Take time each and every day for your enlightenment and expansion and health. Overcome the limiting beliefs that bind you and set yourself free!

When you align your core beliefs with your desires, there will be no stopping you. Like gravity, you will not have to think about the Law of Attraction working ever again. You will be too busy living your dreams!

Sierra Goodman has lost 170 pounds and is the author of "Becoming Thin" and a life coach at her company Become the Dream Life Coaching. You can get on her mailing list, purchase her book and her Becoming Thin Guided Visualization and learn more about her coaching programs athttp://www.iam-iam-iam.com

Unlock Your Earning Potential

2010-04-19T04:39:00.000-07:00

Are you looking to increase your financial well being? Let's be honest, I think we all are! If you are serious about making money, what do you need to do to get on the right track? It's as simple as this -

Install the Law of Attraction into your everyday being.

You need to ensure that you apply the principles of the Law of Attraction in all that you do and think about.

Hopefully it is becoming clearer now just what the Law of Attraction is, and what you need to do to begin applying it. Allow me to refresh - the Law of Attraction means that you have to use the power of your mind to think positive thoughts, and produce positive feelings. Your most heartfelt desires will appear as, a manifestation of your thoughts and feelings.

This applies to everything, including making money. You need to think about the level of success you desire and how much money you want, which in turn will generate positive feelings towards money.

Why only have these positive feelings in this moment though? Do you not want them to continue?

Keep that in mind - you will be further motivated to keep on going to get to where you want to be.

Being wealthy makes life more enjoyable. You have more time and, more freedom, to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. Your way of thinking will change when you use the Law of Attraction to bring you the wealth and happiness that you desire...and indeed deserve.

This may sound a little overwhelming and you may be thinking that you already think positive thoughts about wealth. But you need to take this a step further. You need to transform the way that you think, and open yourself up to all sorts of opportunity that you never thought possible. You can be as wealthy, and as happy as you want to be.

Remember, 'we become what we think about'. Sure, there is hard work along the way, but if you keep your end goal in site, you will find that things pop up unexpectedly - stepping stones if you will - to get to that finishing point. Really thinking about something, and attracting that to you, is going to be all that you really need to achieve what you want to.

Get in touch with yourself and think about what it is that you really want. Tune in to the good, and do not let anything bad get in the way of your positive thinking. I know that probably sounds easier than it is, but once you become more and more familiar with this, you will be able to stay firmly on track to your destination.

Making money and the application of the Law of Attraction, go hand in hand. The extremely wealthy in the world today, the likes of Donald Trump and Richard Branson, didn't just get lucky in obtaining their fortunes...they had the positive mindset necessary to attract it to them.

Now I know that not everyone wants to be as rich, or live the lifestyle of the world's wealthiest. That is fine. But remember, regardless of how wealthy you want to be, the principles remain the same.

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How to Manage Your Emotions and Energy

2010-04-13T05:24:00.000-07:00

This is an intermediate to advanced discussion on the Law of Attraction. It's very important to understand the role of your emotions in the attraction process. Let's take the example of a garden hose. When you have the water turned on water flows through the hose. When there's an obstruction or a kink in the hose, the water flow is impeded or pinched off, therefore you have a resisted flow.

How can you tell if what you're creating or intending is flowing to you? By your inner state of flow.

You've made an intention or launched a desire to the Universe and if you don't resist your desire, it's on its way to you. If you wonder what's taking so long, take a look at your resistance to having what you want.

"Resistance? Of course I want to get the funding to go to the college of my choice, of course I want to get that great job." All well and good. But if it's been taking months to years to get what you want, be assured that you've got some resistance pinching off your flow.

To better understand the term 'resistance' it's sometimes helpful to look at the opposite definition. Some opposite definitions of the word resistance are flow, harmony, accord, agreement, cooperation. These are the qualities you want to transmit when you're thinking about your desire.

Remember the Universe matches and mirrors back to you whatever vibration you're transmitting. And it's not just on the topic of your desire.

What's the general balance of your emotional state over the course of a day? Do you experience frequent annoyance, aggravation, impatience, grouchiness, boredom, intolerance? Are you stressed and rushed? These emotional states are hanging around your energy field. The Universe is matching and mirroring back to you reasons to experience more of the same.

Get the clean up committee on the job by practicing better feeling thoughts. Find more reasons to compliment and appreciate. Look around and give thanks for all the wonder and beauty that surrounds you. Appreciation is one of the fastest vibration raisers. Now you're back in the unresisted attraction mode. Clean up your vibration by noticing what you're transmitting and consciously choose to transmit at a higher vibration. The Universe will match that and you'll have a much more enjoyable life experience.

Nanette Geiger is a relationship coach and author of many books and articles focusing on Relationships, the Law of Attraction and Self-Mastery. You can find more helpful articles on the Resource Page and books on the publications page of her website athttp://www.NanetteGeiger.com.

The Law of Attraction - Make the Past Disappear

2010-04-13T05:03:00.000-07:00

I think without a doubt that the most valuable asset the Law of Attraction provides is a change in your own outlook.

If, up to now, you've always been basically unhappy, your life following a path of one expected failure after another, then something must change.

Let's not become too carried away by the Law of Attraction. Make no mistake. It works. But to think that just because you practice it diligently and start to see changes in you and indeed your way of life, doesn't mean that there won't still be bumps along the way. You'll still make mistakes, you'll still fail.

This isn't really the point, though. It's how you handle your mistakes and failures that matters. If, like the example I cited at the beginning, you used always to fail because you expected to fail, then changing this way of thinking to the point where you expect success, then your failure rate will be very much diminished.

This is why I keep harping on the necessity of writing down your goals, having given them a great deal of thought beforehand. You see, what you're really doing is to change you, yourself.

The Law will only work properly if you really want something more than anything else in the world. If you think to yourself; 'I don't know. It might be rather fun to learn Latin.' 'Rather fun' won't cut it. It has to be a burning desire. Here again we see where people fail. The fire isn't there.

My own feeling is that the Law comes in two stages.

First of all, there must be a change in attitude. Then you concentrate on what you need. A new car, new house, new this, new that, simply won't happen in isolation. You must go to the root of your desire. Change yourself first.

From a lifetime of pessimistic negativism, turn it all around by running a film through your head where you're upbeat, optimistic and successful. As I've said, this isn't magic. And forget all about quantum physics and magnetic attractions. It's a question of re-training your subconscious mind.

The other day, we discussed the past and the future. I suggested then that there can't, strictly speaking, be a temporal present or we'd all shoot off into outer space, because time would have to stand still. Now we know there's a past, but it's so necessary to forget it, unless there are very sweet and pleasant memories you can evoke.

But if someone's wronged you, or your parents were distant and aloof with you. If your schooldays were a hell on earth, all that's gone. Forget it. Until you do so, then your existence will be one of misery and unhappiness. After all, you can't change the past by reliving it, and reliving it's the last thing you should do.

Let go of all the bad baggage and don't worry about tomorrow, apart from your affirmations and visualizations of happiness, optimism and success

Mike Bond, describing the real benefits of the Law of Attraction. We strongly recommend a visit to his Website at The Hypnosis Attraction, where you can download a free audio of a Seminar and also a free book on The Reversal of Attraction

Feel Great and Lose Weight!

2010-03-30T01:37:00.000-07:00

Diets are depressing.This article is named Feel Great And Lose Weight because it really needs to be that way around.If you feel great then losing weight is merely an added bonus that happens when you are not looking.

How many people at this time of year become OBSESSED with losing weight? Thousands!In actual fact they want to feel great and they think that losing weight will do that, but that’s not necessarily true.Diets are depressing. Diets make you obsess about food and about scales. When you tell yourself you can’t have something, you can’t eat that you can’t do that, can’t have that you are depriving yourself of things that give you pleasure, that’s not going to make you feel good is it? As a result it is on our minds every minute of the day, which makes it even more painful as you want it even more! We ALL want something when we are told we can’t have it. At the same time we feel like a failure and the months stretch before us, torturing us with the misery of being forbidden the thing that we love-food. Food is not our enemy, it keeps us alive ! It gives us energy. The wrong food can make us feel tired and down if we eat too much of it, that’s not healthy.

So this year, instead of torturing yourself with a diet that will be short lived and make you feel like a failure why not make a commitment to making yourself feel great instead? And then see the weight fall off! After all,you want to lose weight to make you feel good so why not feel good anyway?

When we eat healthily we feel great. Eating healthily doesn’t mean that you are forbidden from eating anything. It means you eat as much as you need (no more) and you eat foods that are going to benefit your body 80% of the time. If you feel like having a piece of cake that’s ok! It isn’t wrong to eat! But just have one piece of cake, or one bar of chocolate and don’t feel guilty! Slim people eat cake, and chocolate, they do! I know, I’ve seen them!

Ask yourself this, what do you really want?

Do you want to be healthy, full of energy, feeling great about yourself?

Or do you want to feel obsessed,depressed and deprived of food you love and probably gaining weight instead of losing it?

Write down how you want to feel.

Did you choose the first option? Ok, good. Then take a look at my suggestions for you. Choose which ones you want to do and practice them everyday. The more you do the better you feel, be committed. This is a way of life, not a diet. Your goal is to feel great!

1. Drink 8 glasses of water every day.I know, you knew this one but it is so important. Sometimes we eat because we think we are hungry but we are actually thirsty. This coupled with the fact that fat cells become harder to break down when we are dehydrated shows how much harder it is to lose weight when we don’t drink enough. Two reasons we will lose weight easier if we drink lots of water and we feel better too.

Water also flushes toxins out of our body,can cure tension headaches,ease fatigue and clear our skin.

2. Always,always eat breakfast.Get your metabolism working, you don’t need a lot for breakfast but you do need something. You will have more energy and burn more calories when your metabolism speeds up. If you feel more tired after breakfast change what you are eating. You want to eat foods that make you feel good.

3. Positive self talk. You are hereby banned from saying anything negative to yourself. Think about it, what do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror?

Fat? Disgusting? Yuk?

You seriously need to change that. Would you talk to your friend like that? Or even someone you don’t really like that much? Then don’t do it to yourself, it’s cruel and hurtful and you deserve better.

Your subconscious mind hears that and believes it. And it does as its told .It is your subconscious that controls your actions. If you tell it you are fat it will make you do all the actions to reinforce that because that’s what it thinks you want..You will eat.

Tell yourself, I am beautiful. I love me just the way I am. I know it will sound strange and difficult at first but you must start to see yourself in a different light. Maybe more how the people who love you see you.

Pick out you best features and focus on them.

4. Your thoughts control your feelings. If you feel sad then its because you are thinking negatively. What are you focusing on? Change it to something positive, that makes you happy.T he one thing in your life you CAN control and only you is your thoughts, and seeing as you thoughts control your feelings chose to feel great!

5. Set a goal. Make it a positive. Not about losing weight but getting into a size whatever it is. Don’t make you goal to huge,i t has to be believable for you. Maybe two dress sizes at a time. Remember this is about feeling great,imagine yourself in that size…If you focus on losing something that’s a negative. Or make a goal about work,or finances to boost your self esteem.

6. Exercise.

Exercise release endorphins and can really make you feel great. Even just 20 minutes can uplift you and make you feel good about yourself.

7. Smile.

Smile at everyone you come into contact with. Give compliments and spread kind words and thoughts. Making other peoples’ day make you feel great! It has a knock on effect and reduces your stress. Smiling releases endorphins, reduces blood pressure and can improve your immune system. It lakes you feel happier!

8. Don’t fret about little things. Do they matter really? Comfort eating is a major cause of obesity. We all know it is our state of mind (our thoughts and feelings) that prompt us to comfort eat. Does is not therefore make sense to change the way we feel first? (We don’t comfort eat when we are happy do we?)

So go through your day focusing on all that is positive and good. Feel joy and gratitude for all that you have. If someone drives badly let it go over your head, if you partners driving you crazy go have a bubble bath or do something nice for yourself. Choose to be calm, not stressed.

9. Eat foods which give you energy.

Green leafy vegetables, nuts, yoghurt, eggs, oranges, beans, lentils, dried fruit and seeds.

10. Eat good fats. You need to eat fat to burn fat. Eat oily fish, nuts, seeds and avocados. Don’t eat to much oily fish if pregnant. Eat sunflower,rapeseed and olive oils. These fats will help you feel wonderful. These fats will help you feel great and lose weight!

11. Accept a compliment. If someone pays you a compliment say thankyou and believe it. They didn’t have to say it, allow yourself to feel good about it.

12. See yourself as a success not a failure. Take up Yoga, Pilate’s or Meditation. Any if these activities can help you feel fabulous. Go to a class with a friend, have fun.

Remember, do all that you can to truly feel great and the weight will go, just focus on the feeling and forget about the weight.

Jane

Why You Need To Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone

2010-03-30T01:30:00.000-07:00

If you keep doing what you’ve always done you will keep getting what you’ve always got."~W L Bateman

Changing one small thing can change your life forever.

I love this quote above,if you haven’t heard it before it should speak volumes.

Einstein also said that it is a sign of insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over and expect the results to be different. Most of us aren’t even aware that we are habitually repeating patterns safely inside our comfort zone. After all, it feels good in there right? That’s why its called a comfort zone. The problem is that we are generally unfulfilled there. If we have hopes,dreams and aspirations for a better life they aren’t going to be in our comfort zone, we know! We’re already there!

That’s why you need to break out.

If you don’t it will all stay the same. Is that what you want? I don’t think so.
Yes,its scary,it can be uncomfortable just thinking about it.

But fear can be used as an inspirational tool.

When we overcome it and we achieve our goal as a result of that, the feeling of achievement is so intense! It inspires us to break out more.
So the trick is a little at a time. Focus on your end goal,envisage what that feels like, is it worth feeling the fear? I am guessing it is.
And as you grow with it so will your confidence and your faith in yourself.

Ask yourself this…What would you do if you KNEW you couldn’t fail?hink about it, let your mind wander. Did you come up with something new? Or was it a dream that you have had for a long time but haven’t moved any closer toward achieving?

What small step can you take today to move a little closer to your dream?

Will you do it? Even if it is scary,just do one small thing. And then give yourself a pat on the back you are closer today than you were yesterday but not as close as you will be tomorrow. I often find that when the first small step has been taken it snowballs and you just want to do more. It is the BIG picture that’s scary. The little steps are easy,and thankfully it is the little steps that take you to the reality of your dream.

Think about what you are scared of. Fear of failure,success,what people may say/think of you?

As far as the failure part goes, there is no such thing. You can LEARN that that particular way does not work for you,and then try a different way.The great people of all time didn’t succeed first time round,they just see failure as an opportunity to do it a different way!Look at it as a journey,if you lose your way try a different road.

As for success, it generally doesn’t come overnight so you will have plenty of time to adjust to it on the way, one step at a time.

And what do people know about you? No one knows what is best for you better than you. You know your dreams, they don’t. Even of you told them they still wouldn’t see them exactly as you do. Be proud of who you are, because there is no one in this world like you, show what you are made of and look back on your life and be thankful that you stepped out of your comfort zone and achieved your full worth and made your mark on the world.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can give you the life you always wanted.Write down how you truly want your life to be and focus on it,be positive,and take one small step,today.

“What The Mind Can Conceive It Can Achieve.”

W.Clement Stone

Step Up Or Step Off

2010-03-25T04:54:00.000-07:00

I posted this article because of the inspirational example of a single mum succeeding where others would have given up,or just not attempted in the first place,Jane

As we step into spring, I've been thinking about people stepping up.

There's a lot of it going on around us, it seems, positive signs that even in the toughest economic winters people are as resilient as ever. Of course, that's the nature of "tough times," isn't it? We all have a greater opportunity to overcome, perhaps, to dig a little deeper, to find the heroes in ourselves.

A recent example that sticks out to me is a woman in her mid 40s who graduated at the top of her 2009 class from a college in California. She was valedictorian. The remarkable thing was, she was a single, working mother of 13 kids (8 of them adopted), and she had taken in dozens of foster kids over 25 years as a stay-at-home mom. When asked why she did it, she explained that after her divorce she realized she needed a college degree to get a decent job, and she wanted to inspire her kids. When asked how she did it, she said she just did it. She and the kids all helped each other with chores and homework.

She told interviewers, "You know what... if you want to do it. Just do it. Do it afraid and the courage will come later."

But with every opportunity to step up, like this one, there's also an opportunity to step off, to find a reason to do nothing or take a less heroic path. We always have an opportunity to blame others, to view ourselves as helpless victims, to rationalize excuses for our low expectations or outcomes, to believe that we can't make a difference. We might hear some of these common cop-outs in our own head:

"Everyone else does it."

"I'm just one person."

"That's not my job."

"No one else cares; why should I?"

"I did my part; those other people dropped the ball."

"She made the mistake."

"I don't get the credit I deserve."

"Life isn't fair."

Let's face it; life isn't always fair. It's often not very fair at all. We have big challenges and bad breaks to overcome on our journey through it. But, we are ultimately defined by how we respond to what life throws at us (and it's been throwing a lot at many of us lately).

Stepping out of this cold winter with a mind to step up a little more might just lead us somewhere warmer and brighter.

Small steps.... We might choose to act with integrity during a tempting moment to do otherwise (even when no one else is watching). We might choose to commit a selfless act during a tempting moment to do otherwise. We might choose to dig a little deeper within ourselves, to light a candle rather than curse the darkness, to do it afraid and let the courage come later.

Happy spring, and happy stepping!

Dave Neal is a senior partner at 4th Street Training, a premiere instructional design group that helps move individuals and organizations to new levels. Learn more athttp://www.4thstreettraining.com/

How Do You See Life -Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

2010-03-24T08:37:00.000-07:00

This is a phrase we have heard throughout life. An interpretation of this phrase is used to quality a person as an optimist or a pessimist. Does the person see life as more negative than positive thus creating a life that supports this outlook - with life having a more negative spin. The optimist will see life in a more positive light and will have a life that reflects that outlook.

One way to determine how you generally see life is to get a pad of paper and brainstorm the areas of your life that are not great or are challenging. On another page, reflect on all the things in your life that you would embrace as blessings.

A person who has a pessimistic outlook might find it difficult to identify the blessings. Even the simple things that are blessings, such as; waking up, having a warm cup of coffee, having a warm shower, having great children, living in a safe and comfortable home, etc. To a person who is negative, this is not part of their outlook on life because they are so focused on what they do not have versus what they do have.

Negativity is a habit. I believe some people believe it is in a persons' general makeup. I do not agree. I meet people all the time who could perceive life as negative because of the challenges they have faced, yet these people see the good, the blessings, and the possibilities. Instead of focusing on what they do not have they only see what they do have and in doing that they continue to attract more and more.

A negative person is always pushing away all that is available in life. They are people who look for things to complain about and they are also people other people avoid. Unless the other person is a pessimist also. It is very difficult to be around a negative person because you can easily be dragged down by their negative energy.

After you have done the exercise of determining if your glass is half empty or half full, begin to practice seeing life more positively. Look for areas in your life that are truly blessings - we all have them. Stop complaining - start changing. Practice optimism.

Sonja Fullwood, author, life, health, and prosperity coach. Sonja brings a life-time of experience, knowledge, and accomplishments to her coaching business. Sonja is direct in her approach to coaching and holds people accountable for their actions and supports the greatness and potential in everyone. Visit my site at http://sonjafullwood.com. This site is a work in progress - please feel free to visit and comment.

Law of Attraction, Does it Ever Really Work?

2010-03-24T08:31:00.000-07:00

I really like this article I found by Jim Gerlits,Jane

I read an article the other day about the Law of Attraction and the author felt that he was not sure that it really worked. When I read that it bothered me that a person could feel that way. The the teachings of the law of attraction are certainly not new. The laws have been thought for centuries. At times these laws are exhilarating in that I can have anything I want in this world and in my life. At other times they seem a bit scary in that when something happens in my life I have to take full responsibility for it and I can't blame some one else.

After thinking about whether or not the laws are real and if they work I did realize how easy it would be to feel that way. If you get up feeling great and happen to listen to the radio or TV there will definitely be something that will bring you down. Be it about the economy, recession or the hate and anger in the world.

After that how do you get out of that place were your mind is filled with stinkin' thinkin'. Especially when your whole life, you have been taught every thing but the law of attraction. So you have a lot of untruths to over come. We spend eighty five percent of our days talking to our selves. How much of that time do we spend monitoring our thoughts. Probably not even a few seconds we talk to ourselves so much that we don't even think about it. We do have a monitor for it though and that is our emotions, when you find your self in the dumps you can be certain that you have not been paying any attention to your thoughts.

Now to get your self back into the thoughts that make you feel good and allow you to be happy and productive again. In some of our teachings we are taught that the only thing real in our world and will stand up to the test of time are things that are true. Although what we are thinking feels true to us they aren't because they can't stand up to time. More than likely you will have forgotten the big problem with in a few days time. Your children or grand children will not remember it or even care about it. So it was not a truth and you are really wasting your time giving it any meaning. It really is much more fun to live a happy and joyous life.

One of the greatest truths is love, if we can live our life with that in our thoughts. Be a loving person in all the parts of our life we would have a life truly, filled with the law of attraction to such an extent we would never want for anything. That would be a dream come true, to be able to accomplish such a love.

I've had for what seems like my whole life, a need to understand myself and the world I live in. That being the situation I've invested many pounds and hours in trying to understand what I'm all about. What I soon realized is that we actually have total control over our lives. Our whole world is actually created in our thoughts. In realizing this it certainly made a difference in the way I looked at life and how I made my decisions. At the same time it gives us the power to actually create the life that we would like to live. How exciting that can be, but it isn't always simple.

The site is http://motivationaltips-jgwg.blogspot.com/ My wish for you is to live a limitless life.

Keeping the Spark In Your Relationship

2010-03-23T04:58:00.000-07:00

Relationships are wonderful at the beginning. A euphoric mix of excitement and anticipation wondering where it will lead. After this initial period things settle down but still the honeymoon period begins. The time span of the honeymoon period varies depending on the couple and the circumstances, but why does it have to end?

Of course circumstances change, children may appear and you may not have the time or energy to spend on each other as you once did. But surely the feelings of the honeymoon period came from within you ,sparked by the other person. Should we really allow circumstance to change the feeling of our relationships? Would it really go if we continued to try to make our partner feel loved and special as we once did?

What we really want after all is that feeling of being in love and being loved, surely we can have that through out our relationship if only we put the effort in? We let other things take over, that may seem important at the time but isn't our relationship our priority? How would we feel if we lost it?

Our partner is, after all.the same person that we met. That person that we thought about constantly ,dreamed about, talked about and wanted to be with 24/7. Remember them? Granted it can't always be quite like that else we wouldn't get anything else done but surely the feeling of love and adoration should last a lifetime? We can get bored or frustrated with our relationships and wonder if we could have something more. We feel empty and unappreciated.

Where does the spark go? Can you get it back? Or how do you keep it in the first place? I believe that there are certain requirements to help us keep it, and,if we really want to, get it back if its gone already.

When you met and it was all dreamy you were focusing on all the good stuff. When did you stop? Why did you stop? Was it gradual? Did they not live up to your expectations? Are you being fair?

It is a downward spiral when you start to dwell on another persons imperfections. Think about why you both felt so wonderful when you met. Was it because you made each other feel special? Because you saw all that was good and wonderful and unique about each other? What would happen if you focused on those things now?

Why don't you try telling your partner what you love about them? We should do this every day,more than once. We all love to be appreciated.In fact it is a necessity.

A large portion of men who have been unfaithful have said that it wasn't because their mistress was more attractive/intelligent or funny than their wife, it was because they made them feel admired, appreciated and supported.

Being taken for granted is not conducive to a happy relationship.

It doesn't take much effort to say,'I'm so grateful you did this, what would I do without you?'
So if the spark has already gone do you want it back? Does your partner?

If so then start by focusing on all that is good about them. Let the rest go. None of us are perfect and you knew that when you made a commitment to be with this person.

Love them for their faults and they will love you for it. The Law of Attraction says you get more of what you focus on, the more you appreciate and praise your partner the more they will want to please you.

Men need to be appreciated, supported and admired and trusted.

Women need to be cared for, respected, reassured and understood. We need loving attention.

We have to recognise the differences between us to understand what the other person needs. If you fulfil their needs they will be happy.

It takes some effort, no one said it would be easy, but it can be if it becomes second nature. The more you put in the more you get out.

Spend time together. Turn off the T.V and talk. Talk about things that don't matter. Have fun, giggle together. Be daft. Too much serious will obviously take its toll.

Be affectionate. Hold hands, cuddle. Don't sit on separate sofas, don't go upstairs to play video games and leave your wife alone downstairs. BE together.

Be considerate. Make their life a little easier by helping just a bit more.

Make loving gestures, they don't have to be huge. A cup of tea in bed, watch what they want on t.v even if you hate it. A bunch of flowers or get up with the kids so they can have a lie in.

Tell them you love them,as much as you feel you can. Didn't you used to?

Respect each other. Respect each others feelings, wants, needs, wishes, opinions and space. Never put them down or play games and avoid making them feel guilty. Helping them feel better about themselves will have a major effect on your relationship. Keep your criticism to yourself and don't lay blame.

Smile at each other. Take time to look at them when they walk through the door and smile. Show them you are pleased to see them.

Trust them. Open up to them and be yourself around them.

Eat you meals together, go to bed at the same time. Show them that you want to be near them.

Pay them compliments, a compliment goes a long way.

Make love, often. Make time so you can take your time. (If this is an issue then it will get easier after you have applied the other tips first I think)

Make time to just BE together. No kids of family around,just time so you can focus on each other.

Remember, you can't expect someone else to make you happy. Your happiness is within you. Make yourself happy and you will be more pleasant to be around. Happiness is contagious. Appreciate your partner more and show them love at the same time, then notice the difference.

I know I have made this sound easy and it will be for some of you. For those of you in a very unhappy relationship just try one thing at first and see what happens. You don't have to tell your partner that you are trying to change, just do what you feel you can, and then one more thing and one more.

I really hope this has made you think and you have a wonderful evening with your loved one tonight,

Jane

"If you keep on doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting what you've always got." - W L Bateman

2010-03-19T05:14:00.000-07:00

Why You Need To Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone

I love this quote above,if you havn't heard it before it should speak volumes.

Einstein also said that it is a sign of insanity to keep doing the same thing over and over and expect the results to be different. Most of us aren't even aware that we are habitually repeating patterns safely inside our comfort zone. After all, it feels good in there right? That's why its called a comfort zone. The problem is that we are generally unfulfilled there. If we have hopes,dreams and aspirations for a better life they aren't going to be in our comfort zone, we know! We're already there!

That's why you need to break out.

If you don't it will all stay the same. Is that what you want? I don't think so.
Yes,its scary,it can be uncomfortable just thinking about it.

But fear can be used as an inspirational tool.

When we overcome it and we achieve our goal as a result of that, the feeling of achievement is so intense! It inspires us to break out more.
So the trick is a little at a time. Focus on your end goal,envisage what that feels like, is it worth feeling the fear? I am guessing it is.
And as you grow with it so will your confidence and your faith in yourself.

Ask yourself this...What would you do if you KNEW you couldn't fail?

Think about it, let your mind wander. Did you come up with something new? Or was it a dream that you have had for a long time but havn't moved any closer toward achieving?

What small step can you take today to move a little closer to your dream?

Will you do it? Even if it is scary,just do one small thing. And then give yourself a pat on the back you are closer today than you were yesterday but not as close as you will be tomorrow. I often find that when the first small step has been taken it snowballs and you just want to do more. It is the BIG picture thats scary. The little steps are easy,and thankfully it is the little steps that take you to the reality of your dream.

Think about what you are scared of. Fear of failure,success,what people may say/think of you?

As far as the failure part goes, there is no such thing. You can LEARN that that particular way does not work for you,and then try a different way.The great people of all time didn't suceed first time round,they just see failure as an opportunity to do it a different way!Look at it as a journey,if you lose your way try a different road.

As for success, it generally doesn't come overnight so you will have plenty of time to adjust to it on the way, one step at a time.

And what do people know about you? No one knows what is best for you better than you. You know your dreams, they don't. Even of you told them they still wouldn't see them exactly as you do. Be proud of who you are, because there is no one in this world like you, show what you are made of and look back on your life and be thankful that you stepped out of your comfort zone and achieved your full worth and made your mark on the world.

Stepping out of your comfort zone can give you the life you always wanted.Write down how you truly want your life to be and focus on it,be positive,and take one small step,today.

"What The Mind Can Conceive It Can Achieve."
W.Clement Stone

Being In The Flow

2010-03-18T05:22:00.000-07:00

Being In The Flow

Don't you just love it when everything goes your way? You glide effortlessly through your day feeling light and free, happy and full of energy. There's a car parking space exactly where you need it to be, you discover more money in your bank account than you thought there would be, you run into an old friend who is thrilled to see you. You see things in a different light, the sunshine on a flower in such vivid colours,t he bright green of grass and the blueness of the sky. Everything you need comes to you and you are filled with gratitude for the sheer pleasure of life. You feel love and you feel loved. This is my perception of being in 'The Flow.'

Sometimes you can see when other people are in the flow. I've always loved it when you are driving down the street and you see someone walking alone and they are just smiling to themselves. I always used to think they must be in love,walking along thinking of someone they just met,or someone they have loved for a long time. Maybe though, it's simply because they are in the flow, feeling so grateful for just being alive and loving it.

Gratitude is after all what puts us in the flow,gratitude,an appreciation of all that we have,and are.

When we feel truly grateful it evokes positive emotions within us. Gratitude couples with positive emotion attracts to us more things to be grateful for and more positivity! What a wonderful cycle to be in!
Another great aspect to being in the flow is that, due to our lack of stress, calmness and oneness we are able to think clearly, make better decisions and have more faith in ourselves to succeed at whatever it is that we are doing. Our minds are open to change, for learning, understanding. We feel strong and capable of feeling our best.
We eminate love and this affects everyone around us. They benefit from our energy, it is difficult to complain and be miserable around someone so joyful,we lift them up...which makes us feel even better.

Whilst in flow it is an ideal opportunity to focus on our dreams,our goals.The Law of Attraction states that the combination of gratitude, strong emotions and focus on that which we desire will attract that very thing to us. Practising gratitude daily and consistently makes us focus on what we do have and focus less on what we don't have or don't want.

The opposite of 'The Flow' is when you feel stuck in a cycle of difficulty ,discomfort and negativity...You are stressed out, busy rushing eveywhere. There is not enough of you to go around. You feel guilty, you feel unworthy and things just seem against you. Sound familiar? Its so frustrating,things just keep going wrong, the harder you try the harder it gets.

Nothing fulfills you and even when you stop and try to relax it feels boring. You star saying things like, if only I had this it would all be ok, if I could do that. If only I lost weight, I had more money,met my perfect partner. You are disatisfied with life and overwhelmed.

We search for comfort in other things, maybe out addictions,food, shopping, alcohol. etc.Of course this doesn't work it merely compounds the guilt.

So, how do you get back to the flow if you're stuck fast? The good news is your mood can change in a second and so, therefore can your feelings.

So try these:

Be Grateful!

Put on you favourite piece of uplifting music,and dance! Motion creates emotion.

Write down all that you love about your life,and about you.

Do something that brings you joy.

Daydream.

Read my article 'Happy Habits'do you habits daily.

Be present,right here,right now is it really that bad?Or are you worrying about something that hasn't happened yet and may never happen?

Remember-"This too shall pass."

Jane

2010-03-17T06:21:00.000-07:00

Happy Habits!

Happy habits are things we can develop to use daily in a bid to replace the negative ones that we have spent our lifetimes perfecting.

We all have these negative beliefs,we believe them because we say them to ourselves regularly.Whether its about our finances,job,family,friends,or the way we look, we can ruin our day by believing these negative thoughts.

Wouldn't you rather have a day full of joy?

Being so happy for all that you have?

And when we focus on gratitude and the things we love we attract more of those things,and with them positive happy people,happy situations and more things to LOVE!!

It's a choice really.

So I have come up with a few happy habits to help you brighten your day and fill it with joy instead of complaints.Here goes:

1. Set your alarm so that you have ten/fifteen minutes to spare before you have to get out of bed.(seriously,rushing as soon as you get up is no way to start the day,you can't be grateful whilst you are rushing,sorry)

2. When you open your eyes start to think of all that you have to be grateful for.Feel the love for those things/people and really feel grateful.Say thankyou.

3. Think of your day ahead,and imagine it going exactly the way you want it to go.

Imagine it flowing naturally,everything is on your side,tell yourself 'Everything that is good is coming my way today.'

4. Have a really good stretch,and take a deep breath

5. Smile!Smiling releases endorphins,natural painkillers and endorphins,in other words it cheers you up!Smile at as many people as you can,it makes them smile too!(well sometimes!:-))

6. Give some loving attention to those you love.Hug you kids,smile at your family,tell them you love them.Their happiness will lift you up no end.If you know they feel loved then you will feel great about yourself.

7. Give compliments.We all love them and it feels great to make someone elses day.

8. Exercise.I struggle with this one but it really worth the push.If your feeling lethargic,bored stuck in a rut or always tired a good half hour of exercise really does make you feel like a new person.

9. Write down a goal and take the first step towards achieving it.

10. Think about what negative words you say to yourself regularly and change it to a positive.

11.Be kind to yourself,speak kind words,think kind thoughts and do kind things for you.,and the people around you will benefit from having a happier,stronger,more focused you!

12. Everything happens for a good reason,so if something doesn't go thw ay you wanted it too,know that something better is in store.

Jane

Quick Checklist For Manifesting Your Dreams with The Law Of Attraction

2010-03-17T04:51:00.000-07:00

There is a great deal of information out there for manifesting with The Law of Attraction so I thought I would write you a quick summary..here it is.

Make a committment,a promise to yourself that you will follow these steps each day to manifest your dream.

Decide what you want-be specific.

Believe you can have it.

Believe you deserve it.

Believe it's possible for you.

Close you eyes every day and visualise what you want,feel it and see it as vividly as if you can touch it.

Feel the feelings as if you already have it.

Open your eyes and be truly grateful for all that you have already.Really love that feeling of gratitude.

Release these feelings and desires and have complete and utter faith that the Universe will provide them to you and that whatever you need will come to you.

Remember,you don't have to figure out How you are going to get what it is that you desire,you must focus ONLY on the end result.You will attract the right idea,opportunity,it will come to you.

Take action.
You can't sit on the sofa all day and wait for your dream to appear.Get out there,do what feels right,trust your good instincts and keep absolute unwavering faith that you dream WILL come true.

Just do it,because you can,

Jane

Are You Living Your Life With the "Attitude of Gratitude?"

2010-03-16T05:34:00.000-07:00

I'm going to start this article by asking you a very simple question...what was the first thought you had when you woke up this morning? I've heard the following responses when asked that question during my Seminars and Workshops...

"where's the snooze button?"

"do I really have to get up?"

"not another day of work!"

"here we go again..."

I find it very interesting when I ask that question, the majority of people have a...well, what I would refer to as a 'de-motivational' thought! I'm sure you've heard the saying "starting off on the right foot" or "I got out of the wrong side of the bed this morning". Is this really the way 'you' want to start your day?

Hypothetically speaking, let's imagine that we're all going to Hawaii tomorrow morning! Woo Hooo!!! And our plane leaves at 7am. Therefore, we need to be at the airport 2 hours prior for check in. So, we need to be at the Airport by 5am. Since we live 1 hour from the Airport, we need to be out of our house and driving by 4am. Now, since we are all very proactive, we packed the night before so we're able to wake up by 3am in the morning.

Let me ask you this...are you going to have any problem waking up?! I venture to guess that your answer would be 'no' (I know this because I'd have absolutely no problem waking up!).

So, why is that? Why would you jump out of bed ready for the day?! You're correct if you said because your excited or if you have something to wake up for!

Let's add a little perspective to the example above. A friend of mine, after returning from a visit to see her parents in Ghana Africa, said to me..."Paul, it was great to see my family and friends. Yet, it is so good to be back home as I'm so grateful for running water."Running Water." Imagine that?! She is so grateful to be living in a country that has running water!!!

So, I recommend that instead of waking up and dreading the thought of having to get ready for work..think about waking up with the "Attitude of Gratitude!" Because I'm sure you know someone or of someone that is waking up wondering if they'll find work that day, how they're going to feed their family or the ever climbing mountain of bills that need to be paid?

Here's a quick and easy way to getting into the habit of waking up instantly with an Attitude of Gratitude that I would suggest.

Steps to 'triggering' an Attitude of Gratitude.

Take a post-it note or a small piece of paper
Write the words 'Attitude of Gratitude' on the piece of paper
While holding onto the paper with the words on it, close your eyes and think about a time when you were truely and undoubtedly grateful for something in your life.
Remember the time and place vividly, remember how clear the memory appears. What did you see? Was it totally in focus? Was it dim or brightly coloured? Far or close to you in proximity?
What sounds do you remember? Were the sounds or voices clear, loud or quite? What were you thinking? Were your thought processes quick or slow? What specific words do you remember saying or hearing?
Now feel all your feelings of gratitude that you had at that moment in time. Notice now, where they emit from within your body. Are the feelings 'warm' in nature? Isn't it interesting to notice how if you 'spin' the feelings faster and make them larger you start to feel even more grateful! Now, just allow those feelings to fill and spread throughout your body up to your head and all the way down to your toes.
Open your eyes and look at the piece of paper knowing that anytime in the days, weeks and months to come these feelings of Gratitude are available to you.
Last step. Place this piece of paper by your alarm clock beside your bed. I recommend this so that when you roll over, first thing in the morning, you're going to see this 'reminder' of how grateful you really should be. Thus, starting your day off with...living a life with the "Attitude of Gratitude".
I'm sure that you'll find this process both easy and helpful. Please let me know how you like this process? For more info check out this website!

http://www.jmccoaching.com

Why You Need a Positive Attitude to Achieve Success

2010-03-16T05:27:00.000-07:00

A major part of being successful involves being positive. Thinking of success and picturing yourself as being successful builds up your self-confidence - and this confidence combines with positive thought to succeed at whatever you want to accomplish and get the absolute most out of your life. The most critical key to success is maintaining the belief that you have the ability to accomplish any goal to you set out to do.

Our every thought shapes how we feel about something, and each thought contributes to our behaviour and hence the outcome of any given situation. So, if we go into any situation thinking negatively, the outcome will be far different than if we'd gone in thinking more positively. How we think about ourselves as well as our internal self talk determines how successful we will be. And by talking to ourselves more positively, and thinking more positively in general, better outcomes are destined to arise from the situations we enter. Unfortunately, those negative self-limiting thoughts lead us to most of our failures. As we allow negativity to creep into our minds and take over, we increasingly believe we just won't be able to succeed.

So you can see that, to change the circumstances of our lives, or just the outcome of any given situation, what we need to change is how we think, which repaints our outlook to a different, sunnier shade - and a sunnier shade tends to be the dawn of a better day.

Success isn't something belonging only to an elite club who possess some magical key not availed to the rest of us. The power of success resides in everyone, so long as we realize this and genuinely have the belief that we're able to be successful. When we begin to alter our formerly-negative ways of thinking, and take a positive approach to our lives, we begin to gradually reshape our lives in the direction we want them to go.

An excellent way to change your personal thought patterns is through the use of affirmations. These are nothing more than statements that are tailored to a situation or task in which you want to be successful. You repeat them often during the day (either silently or out loud), and retrain your mind to become more positive. And as you begin to think successfully, you will become a more successful person in any and every area of your life.

Pop over to http://www.yourmindzone.com and claim your free hypnosis recording to help you achieve success and accomplish your goals.

Greatest Inspirational Video

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Our Deepest Fear

A Speech By Nelson Mandela

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light ,not our darkness that frightens us.

We ask ourselves,who am I to be gorgeous,talented,fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you

.We were all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine we give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

How to Build Self-Discipline Fast - The Key to Success

2010-03-12T14:49:00.000-08:00

Napoleon Hill once also said that "all things are possible" with self-discipline and after spending a lifetime studying successful people he knows what he's talking about. So if you're struggling to achieve your goals here's how to increase your level of self-discipline and start achieving the things you want in life...

Moods, Appetites and Passions

Self-discipline is the ability to get yourself to take action regardless of your emotional state. As Stephen R. Covey once wrote, "the undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites and passions", and without self-discipline the knowledge, skill or opportunity you have is likely to be of little or no use. Put it this way, if you're trying to lose weight there's no point in knowing all the right and wrong things to eat and the most effective exercise regimes if you have no self-discipline to put them into action!

So how can you increase your level of self-discipline? In this 3-part series I'm going to take you through the key steps to increasing your level of self-discipline so that you can start taking action regardless of how you feel.

Step 1: Self-Knowledge

Discipline is about doing what is best for yourself regardless of how you feel in the moment, so it's important to have a clear sense of self-knowledge and awareness in order to practice self-discipline effectively.
To do this you need to decide what behaviour is required to achieve your goals and values. The first step for most people in doing this is to spend some quality time analysing what your goals and values actually are.

Regarding values, these are the emotional states you would like to experience on a consistent basis and your list of values reflects the one's you WANT in your life rather than the ones you think you SHOULD have. As most of my clients will tell you, values are far more complex than a short list of words that roll off the end of your tongue, so if you'd like to know more about how to determine your values simply send me an email.

I highly recommend taking the time to get clear on what your goals, dreams and ambitions are, and the values that are important to you - this crucial information provides the backbone to determining what needs to be done in order to achieve your goals and therefore where you need to apply self-discipline.

Step 2: Commitment

I'm sure it comes as no surprise that it's not enough to simply write out your goals and values, you need to be committed to achieving them. If you're not committed you won't see any problem with "having another drink", "hitting the snooze button one more time" or "popping out for that last cigarette" .... you get the drift!

Planning helps increase commitment because it allows you to focus on what's really important and ensure that relevant tasks becomes part of your day allowing you to move closer to achieving your goals. Put bluntly, people don't generally get what they want by ambling through life, hoping, wishing and waiting - it takes commitment and organisation to get there.

If you struggle with commitment, start by making a conscious decision to do what you say you're going to do, and plan a specific time in your schedule to get it done. Give that time the same respect you would a client meeting, and keep track of how often you follow-through with your commitments. Remember - what gets measured gets improved!http://www.outshineconsulting.com.au/Download.htm

5 Fun & Easy Ways to Get Out of the Rut

2010-03-12T13:41:00.000-08:00

I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel less than great. Low, grouchy, fed-up and bored are all words you could use to describe what I'm like on those days. Thing is, days like those are part of the deal with being human - it's not an elective. There will always be off days, and that's okay.

But what happens when you get a whole string of those off-days, maybe lasting weeks, months or even years?

Too many of us say that we're in some kind of rut, feel stuck, fed-up or bored and admit that we don't want things to be that way but that we don't know what to do to change things. That's the problem, when you're in a rut you don't have the energy or motivation to change things for the better, and it's tough to find the insight or resources you need to make that jump.

Here are five fun and easy ways you can use right now to climb, or better yet, leap out of the rut and start to get something better for yourself.

1. Do Something Differently

Life tends to run smoothly when we establish systems and routines for things, but the problem comes when things run too smoothly and we become blinded to any ideas, choices or that sit outside of our routine. All the stuff we do everyday becomes the norm, runs on auto-pilot and becomes our whole world.

Start with making one or two simple changes to your day - be it at breakfast time, your radio station, gym routine, route to work, lunch routine, etc. Don't worry about what the changes are or whether they're right or wrong, just make a couple of simple choices that will serve you well.

Doing something differently or changing parts of your routine instantly takes you out of the norm and allows you to shake off the things that make you feel confined. Step out of your routine and you'll be in a position where you're able to make different choices, see things differently and get a different result.

2. Use your Intuition

Your intuition is a powerful ally, and we all have it even though you might not recognise it. The dictionary says that intuition is,

1.a.The act or faculty of knowing or sensing without the use of rational processes; immediate cognition. b. Knowledge gained by the use of this faculty; a perceptive insight.

2. A sense of something not evident or deducible; an impression.

One of the best friends you'll ever have in life is your intuition, and tuning into it and learning to trust it is something that can have some truly remarkable effects. Accessing your intuition is a bit like working and developing a muscle, but unfortunately it can be harder to locate than a bicep or quadricep, which tend to stay in the same place. Here are some quick tips for accessing and trusting it -

o Practice maintaining an open-minded, playful, experimental, non-judgmental attitude. This is the most fertile ground to tap into your intuition.

o Practice making wild guesses in your everyday life. Guess what a salesperson's name is, what a new person or place will look like or who's calling on the phone. Don't worry about getting it wrong, you're just working that muscle.

o Try a few simple observation exercises in your daily life. Whether you're in a restaurant, on a train, in a bar or out shopping, practice noticing non-verbal behavior in others. Look for shifts in posture, eye movements, vocal tone or tempo, etc. Guess how they're feeling or what they're talking about.

3. Nourishment

Imagine you're walking home from the supermarket with a couple of bags of groceries, but those bags have holes in them. You're walking along merrily leaving a trail of your things behind you, but when you get home you unpack what's left and ask, 'Didn't I have more than this?'

Nourishment is about plugging those holes in your life and making sure you have things in your life that keep you feeling nourished - nourished in your head, nourished in your heart and nourished in your stomach. Remember that you can't give away what you don't have, and can't spend energy you've already spent.

It doesn't have to be the big things in life that nourish you and it's often the simplest little thing that strikes a chord, makes you feel like yourself again or makes you smile from ear to ear - calling a friend, talking a walk in the park or listening to your favourite song for example. So what keeps you balanced? What relaxes you or makes you feel peaceful? What makes you feel like you again?

The fact is that you're important enough to spend time taking care of and it doesn't matter what it is, just take the time to do it. If necessary, go as far as booking time in your diary. You're the only one of you there is, so it's your responsibility to make sure you're okay.

4. Perfect Day

Here's something to play with - your Perfect Day. This idea came to me a few years ago when a good friend suddenly asked me 'What would be your perfect day?' I'd never been asked that before and I found myself spontaneously making up a story - telling her about my Perfect Day from the moment my eyes flickered open to the moment my head hit the pillow.

I went through each part of the day telling her what I was doing, who I was with, where we were, how it felt and what happened next. Bit by bit and without even thinking about it, I'd put together a rich, colourful, exciting and comforting day, which still holds true as my Perfect Day. The best part is that you can start introducing little bits of your Perfect Day into your real life or working to make some of it happen. For example, in part of my Perfect Day I visit a company where I'm helping the directors and employees to focus on their strengths and to create a environment where people love to work and can be their best - and that was even before I knew that there was such a thing as coaching or that I could be a coach.

My Perfect Day has now become like a good friend of mine who I can call on whenever I want to.

So what's your Perfect Day? Don't think too much about it and don't worry about it sounding silly or too grand. Just shoot from the hip and see what comes out naturally for you. Write down words, ideas, themes or a whole narrative - even draw pictures if you want to. Have fun with it, play with it - it's your Perfect Day.

5. Get Some Fun, Fulfillment and Freedom

The Three F's - Fun, Fulfillment and Freedom - encompass a lot of what people are looking for in life, and also contain the solutions to having, doing and being those things. Here are some definitions,

Fun, n. - A source of enjoyment or pleasure; playful activity.

Ful-fil'ment, n. - To bring into actuality; to complete; a feeling of satisfaction at having achieved your desires.

Free-dom, n. - The capacity to exercise choice, free will; frankness or boldness; the absence of constraint in choice or action.

Read those again. Those things are huge, deep and broad, and are a lot simpler than we make them.

Where are you in relation to each of the Three F's? How much of each do you have right now? How much of each do you want? Whatever gap there is recognise that it can be closed, and that you can close it.
What would things be like if you were to close that gap?
What would happen if you climbed a point or two on the Fun scale?
What if you could add a point to your level of Fulfilment or Freedom?

How would that feel? Pretty good, right? So what one thing can you do right now to help you get more?

By themselves each of the Three F's is a powerful thing, and can really help to move you forwards, enjoy where you are and feel alive. But when the Three F's come together....well, just hold on to your hats and keys.

Rut? What rut?

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Atonement And Forgiveness

2010-03-12T13:13:00.000-08:00

I believe that forgiveness is absolutely essential to happiness and inner peace.Resentment and anger can eat away at us for years and cause us much damage which is why I am posting this article written by Derek Ayre.Please read it carefully,

Jane

Atonement, if split into syllables, becomes at-one-ment. Most people in the self-development movement today accept that in order to improve the quality of life, a person first of all needs to focus on his/her problems and/or conflicts to resolve them - in other words, to become at one with them - atonement. In fact, the more somebody can merge with their difficulty, the more successful they will become at dealing with it and can realise atonement. To look at it from a religious point of view, atonement I feel, is not a lot different to looking at it from a psychological point of view, and atonement would indeed, have the same beneficial result.

For example, say somebody was angry and feeling vindictive against somebody who had wronged him/her in some way, whom is that anger going to hurt?

Well, not the person to whom the anger is directed, that's for certain. The person creating the anger, the person creating the vengeful thoughts and other things is going to suffer the most. Yet forgiveness (that is really letting go) of thoughts of retribution and even judgment, will produce real feelings of well-being and freedom and allow the person to move on and realise atonement.

Forgiveness is not something that can be taught, but it's very easy to do.

All that is required is a willingness to forgive others for what we believe they have done to us. In fact, I could go a step further than that and say that ALL that is needed, is a willingness to forgive others for what we thinkthey have done to us.

To qualify that last statement, whether or not somebody else has done something to us is really irrelevant. Whether they have or whether they haven't it's us thinking they have done something to us, that hurts us. By thinking in this way, we arecreating the scenario that we have been wronged and making ourselves into victims whom our "enemies" have power over us, whether or not they know it. See how complex this is getting?

There is another way we can play the victim too. That is we can blame ourselves for things that go wrong. In this scenario, we are attempting to split ourselves up into perpetrator and victim. We make a mistake and lose out on something. We blame ourselves for our stupidity. Just one question needed here... "Am I willing to forgive myself for what has gone wrong?" Just the willingness to forgive is enough. We need to be aware of our "mistake" and focus on it. By doing this, we are forgiving it, we are releasing it.

There's one problem that can arise here though and that is that many of us do not wish to focus on our shortcomings and there's a risk that they can be repressed into the subconscious mind to exert force on our subsequent thought processes.

And what about becoming a victim of what others are doing to others. How many of us get filled with rage and anger at man's inhumanity to man. That's a judgement that needs our forgiveness too.

I feel that what we need to realise here is that this form of behaviour is something that is as old as Man himself. Blaming and seeking retribution has only brought about more wanton destruction in the form of wars and conflicts.

Forgiveness.

What if men and women everywhere just merely contemplated the opportunity to forgive? What if they realised that by forgiving (self or others), that they would find the peace and liberation of atonement? What if they could read this message and put it into practice? What sort of world would we then live in? I will leave you to imagine the answers to these questions.

As mentioned earlier, my idea with this article is not intended to foster any particular religious belief in any way, but I think you will find that if you examine any religion, forgiveness is the fundamental idea the original teacher was putting across. And forgiveness was the road to stress-free life that atonement would bring.

Derek Ayre is a registered hypnotherapist established in the UK in 1976. After becoming a Zen practitioner in 1980, he uses its powerful influence to help his clients both on and off-line. For more articles on therapy and personal development visit http://ayrehypnotherapy.com

Discover Your Talents And Be Happy

2010-03-12T13:06:00.000-08:00

Everything you need to live according to your true nature and to fulfill your mission on earth is already available to you, in the form of your talents.
Talents are like gifts that you received when you were born. They are to be found within yourself. Some of them have been developed already, others are still waiting to be discovered.

In any case, if you want to be happy in life, you will have to start expressing your most important talents. These key talents are an essential part of your mission on earth. The very reason you have received them is for you to offer them to others, to use them to help others and this way find satisfaction for yourself.

For your specific life mission, you and your talents and abilities are the very best for those people among whom you were born and other people whose lives you touch.
Nobody else can implement your mission the way you can.

These powerful aspects and abilities of yours want to be used.
If not, then you will feel disappointed, tired, burdened, frustrated and irritated.

Every activity, every project requires certain capacities and preferences.
If your job requires certain abilities that you miss, then you will get overloaded.
On the other hand, if your talents are not required for the job you are doing, you will feel resistance and boredom.

It is crucially important to know your talents and to create the kind of environment where they can come forward and flourish.

How can you discover your key talents? Here you get some answers.

Take a few minutes to think about yourself. You already possess many abilities, things you accomplish without even thinking about it, without effort. Many things you have learned and mastered are now easily achieved. What talents of yours have been fully activated? These are the talents you use routinely, things you can do easily.
Make a list of everything you can do easily and of every talent and quality you possess already. This list should be long, at least 30 items, but more is better.

You have more than your obvious, visible talents. You also have stored talents. These are talents you know you have but you are not using them. The reasons for this are often excuses like "I'm too busy, I don't dare to, I'm not sure if I'm good enough at that, I'm afraid to make a fool of myself, I'm too old to start that now," and so on.
Another reason could be that you fear your life might well take a totally different turn when you start focusing on this talent of yours!

It's possible that you alone are aware of your talent for singing or acting. Maybe you're a writer in disguise. But you're afraid to come forward out of fear. You are afraid that you're not good enough after all, or that you would have to quit your current way of living when you are truly "discovered!"

This long list of your talents contains your key talents. Key talents are qualities that are outstanding, talents you are known for, talents that are are so typical for you that, if one took them away from you, you wouldn't be the same person anymore. What are these talents or qualities? Can it be your enthusiasm, your communication skills, your sensitivity, your organisational talents, your brillant voice, or what? What talents do you have that are such a big part of your identity that your friends cannot image you without them. These are the most visible and out-standing. What are you known for? What would your friends say about you if they had to describe you in just a few words?

These key talents are the core of your mission on earth. This is the purpose of your life : to discover your talents (your Divine Gifts) and to offer them to those who are ment to get in contact with you, in order to make this world a better place to live, to enhance the vibrational energy of this planet and to get back to the Ultimate Energy of Love.

Start to use your talents. Develop them. Make them better. And offer them to the people around you. The reward for you is, by using and offering your talents, that you will feel happy and you will get access to a life of abundance, freedom, enthusiasm and satisfaction!

Ineke Van Lint, psychologist and writer of this article, invites you to grab your free ecourse and quotes about purpose, happiness and success at http://www.theenthusiasm.com a fascinating self-help and personal development website designed to help you find your true purpose and achieve the life of your dreams.

The Secret Explained

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The 'Science Bit'

The Secret says that the Law of Attraction is explained by Quantum Physics.Wait!Don't go,I know that sounds scary but it basically proves that everything is made up of energy,even our thoughts.Also like energy attracts like energy,so basically 'What we think about we bring about'.We literally attract into our lives what we are focusing on whether we want it or not.

Look around you and know,that wealthy people have focused on money,people with happy marriages have focused on their happy marriage,people who love their bodies have focused on what they like about their bodies and lost weight or found even more to like.

If you focus on all that is good about life, and the world and the people that surround you you will receive an abundance of goodness and and good people. Stop thinking about debt and focus on the money you DO have, be grateful for your home, the food on your table,the clothes that you wear. If they are not what you want right now appreciate them, be grateful and happy about them and you will receive more. Complaing about what you don't want brings more of what you don't want.

So the lesson is, always focus on what you want,not what you don't want! Try it, for 3days and see how you feel. Be excited, you are capable of anything! Decide what you want ,have you ever really thought about it? Or written it down? That's step one ,think really hard about how you want your life to be and write it down. Imagine you have it and allow yourself to really feel how that would feel if you had that life right now.

So for the next 3 days monitor your thoughts, if you are thinking a negative thought replace it immediately with a positive one, (that's right,no complaining to anyone, about anyone or anything)not even in your own mind.

This is difficult at first but you will probably be shocked at how many negative thoughts you do have and understand why there are things on your life you are unhappy with. And when you start replacing those negative thoughts with happy positive ones you will start to feel great!

Dont beat yourself up about it when you are thinking negatively,just let it go and think of something good,something/someone you feel grateful for,something/someone that makes you laugh or even better something you love about you!

That's just a brief outline of The Secret and The Law of Attraction,I will keep posting blogs about the various ways you can get what you want whether it be money,health,wealth,wonderful relationships,losing weight or just feeling great every day.

Please feel free to ask any questions or if you liked this article let me know!

Be kind to yourself today,

Jane

How To Change Your Life-Part One

2010-03-12T07:36:00.001-08:00

I have been studying personal development for 6 years now.

Most of us want to change/improve our lives in some way.Some of us actually want to do something about it but dont know how or where to start.We can get caught up in our lives so much we can't see our way out of the cycle we are in.

If we are not growing we are deteriorating.

It is human nature to keep growing,keep learning keep improving.We don't know it all.We all have lessons to learn.I'm guessing that you do want to improve your life because you are reading this,or maybe you want to change everything about your life.Ifs that's the case then don't despair because there is a 'knock on'effect.

When you change your thinking and you change one thing in your life then everything else will follow.:-)Maybe it's your job you want to change,or your finances,your personal relationship,weight,body image,health or maybe it all looks perfect but there's something missing,can't understand why you're still not happy?

Either way I hope you will find what I write very helpful.The Law Of Attraction is something I believe in fully,however there are also other laws and behaviours which contribute to our success.

The thing is we go through life dwelling on what we are unhappy with,complain about those things and allow them to make us even more miserable.Occasionally we may try to do something about them but we lose focus and it doesn't last very long (ever made a New Years Resolution?)and then we beat ourselves up for 'failing'and the cycle begins.

There are certain things we need to take into account before we can change.There are also things we need to do after we have taken Step One.These first 2 steps are very common reasons we fail so now you know next time you will succeed..

Step One.

Decide WHAT you want!

Who do you want to be?

How do you want to feel?(Yes,its a choice,you can feel it now if you choose to)

What you want to do?

Where do you want to go?

Be specific.

Think about it carefully,write it down and read it every morning and every night.This will keep you focused.

When you read it feel the feelings you would have if you already have it,feel the excitement and the joy,and the gratitude.

Step 2

Make a Decision,a real 100% committment!Not,oh I wish I had that..Make a promise to yourself,a pledge,this IS what I will do,I can do it!

The most important part of all this is that you FEEL good.Feeling bad about your problem/situation or yourself will make you feel feel worse and the problem worse.(See The Secret Explained).Start to feel empowered and positive,excited and confident,determined and happy.

You deserve it,you will do it!

Be kind to yourself,your own best friend.Feeling guilty makes you miserable and the aim here is to feel good.Lose the guilt stop beating yourself for not being perfect and focus on all that is good about you and you goal.

Big yourself up!Dwell on your strengths and the things you like about yourself.If you cant think of any you definitely need to do this,ask a loved one what they love about you but please try to do it by yourself first.

Remember how special you are,thats why you ARE loved and treat yourself accordingly.

Until tomorrow,

Jane

How To Change Your Life-Part Two

2010-03-12T07:35:00.000-08:00

Ok,so now you have decided what you want and made a committment to yourself that you will achieve it.

Step 3

Believe

If there is doubt in your mind then you must eliminate it immediately as this shows that failure is still an option,and it isn't.

Our personal beliefs are formed from birth, they are ingrained into us by our parents,family,friends and experiences and create our perception of ourselves. They affect our thoughts, our feelings,our goals and our relationships and how we feel about ourselves. We can have positive beliefs and beliefs that hold us back on what we really are capable of. Our beliefs can give us a ceiling that we believe we cannot break through.

They set out standards for ourselves in our lives. They dictate what we feel we deserve and consequently what we achieve. Do you think there are any millionaire who accidently made their money? No, they believed they deserved it and were willing to accept no less, that doesn't mean their beliefs/standards are as high in other areas of their lives ,eg relationships, health etc.

Our beliefs set our standards,we need to believe that we DESERVE what we are aspiring to have,that we are good enough,that we can do it.

We make excuses to ourselves as to why we can't have it/do it. This stems from our beliefs(and fear,but we'll get to that another time).

There is no reality, only perception. And your perception is your belief, and you can change your beliefs if you choose to, and then so change your 'reality'.

So, How Do I Change My Beliefs?

Well,your long term ingrained beliefs are embedded in our subconscious mind, we are not even aware of most of them, but I hope that now you are aware of this you will start to indentify some of your own limiting beliefs and then you will be able to change them. You may recognose that you repeat certain patterns in your life, in any area maybe in relationships or with money. These patterns come from negative beliefs we have and you can recognise them by thinking about any repetative bahaviour you may have. It may be personal relationships, do you look back and feel as though your last few relationships were as is you went out with the same person over and over again?

Or do you keep earning money but never seem to have any? Sit down and write down any limiting beliefs or patterns you can recognise and write down why you may have developed them.

This may be an uncomfortable excersize but it is worth it as when you have identified them you can replace them with new positive ones. They are basically negative thoughts we have about ourselves and our lives, but like I said earlier they can come from our subconscious so we need to increase our awareness of what we are really thinking.

Step 4

Changing Your Negative Beliefs Is The Most Powerful Way To Change Your Life

"Whether You Believe You Can Or You Can't You're Probably Right"

Look at your page of limiting beliefs and turn them into positive beliefs,for example:

'Nothing I do is ever good enough'change to 'I can achieve whatever I choose!'

'You Have To Work So Hard And Suffer To Have Money" change to 'Money Flows To Me Frequently and Easily'

"I'm Fat" change to 'I'm a size....and I look Great!'

"All The Good Ones Are Taken" change to 'My perfect partner is out there and I will meet them soon."

"No One Finds Me Attractive."change to "I am beautiful and I attract people who are good for me."

"I'm Tired All Of The Time."change to 'I am always full of energy'

Yes,it does feel strange at first but keep at it and you will retrain your subconscious to belive it and then it will come into fruition.

Changing the thoughts we have and the things we say to ourselves changes the way we feel,behave and take action.It also attracts goods things to us.Positive thoughts attract positive things and negativity breeds negativity.Always make it into a solid positive,the subconscious mind does not recognise the words 'not'and'don't',so dont say'I won't do smoke anymore' say 'I am a non smoker.'Always say(and think)what you DO want and let go of what you don't want.

In summary:

Take whatever you have made a committment to do.

Identify any limiting beliefs you have regarding this goal.You DO have some else you would have it already.

Change that belief into a positive.

Believe that you DESERVE your goal.

Make Today A Day Of Change,

Until Tomorrow,

Jane

The Law of Attraction and Weight Loss Management

2010-03-10T06:21:00.000-08:00

The Secret, it is called. It lay practically dormant since its inception, long before the Knights of Templar and the Code named for a Tuscan Renaissance man, artist and inventor; long before any void of noble blood would know of its existence.

Then, because of a small, made-for-television movie produced for Australia's Channel Nine, the secret was out.

Thank goodness, and a willing media.

Beth and I have been practicing, living, and teaching The Secret - its true name is the Law of Attraction - for ten years when the rest of the world caught on. And we whole-heartedly believe that if there is one true law that can heal the world and put and keep all of us who inhabit it back on track, it is the Law of Attraction. It is the one, true earthly (actually, Universal) law that fits all, because the pure tenet of this ancient "New Thought" is that everyone - regardless of race, religion, geography, or political ideology - deserves a happy, secure life where all wants and needs are available for all.

Sounds good - too good, we know... we hear it all the time. Yet if this law - and it is a law, not unlike any other physical law of the Universe - has no bearing in everyday reality and human existence, why has it spanned ages and appeared to work for some of the most revered in our societies? It has clearly ignored borders, religions, and political affiliations over the eons it has been recognized.

Is there something to it?

Yes, there is. Just ask us, and the hundreds of thousands around the world who have connected with all that is good through the Wonderful Law of Attraction. And if you don't believe us, just ask Oprah.

American cultural icon Oprah Winfrey has openly hailed the Law of Attraction on her highly rated syndicated talk show, as well as in print, on her radio network, and as a guest on the Larry King Show. She is the walking, talking poster child of the Law of Attraction, and she has the successful, happy, giving, and full life that emotes everything that is The Secret. And like all who truly practice the Law of Attraction - present company included - she wants everyone including you to know about it.

A WEIGHTY LOA QUESTION

At our many lectures, meetings, and seminars that we appear at each year, the inevitable question is raised by an audience member. "Can I lose weight with the Law of Attraction?" The answer is a clear and concise Yes!

How do we know this? Because using the Law of Attraction, and the Universal methods of thought to emotion to end result, Beth lost 50 pounds and I lost over 100 pounds. When I began using the LOA for weight loss, I weighed in at 440 pounds. And I continue to lose and manage my weight. My Law of Attraction success in this, my most lifelong troubling struggle, erased any atom of lingering doubt I ever harbored concerning LOA.

First, in case you are a little confused by The Secret, and are perhaps new to the idea of it, we'd better explain how the Law of Attraction works. Everything in the physical world where we exist vibrates. EVERYTHING whether it be dirt, a tree, a human being--these all emit a vibration. Even a rock vibrates--albeit at a much slower and barely perceptible pace--and a human being vibrates at a far more rapid rate.

These vibrational patterns translate to everything that you are feeling, which moves the Universe to, in turn, attract exactly what those feelings are. So if you are thinking (feeling) about how angry you may be at someone, the Universe takes that emotion and emits (returns) directly back to you what you happen to be feeling. You always attract exactly what you are feeling. THIS IS THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

So if you are feeling wonderful, and thinking about how great your day is, and you are happy and grateful for that wonderful day, the Universe attracts (returns) to you exactly what you are feeling --more days of joy and wonder. What could be better than that? However, as is usually the case, there are a few problems with us humans when it comes to attracting what we desire.

In society today, people usually don't listen to their intuition. We instead rely on other people to tell us "what is." It's kind of like old fable, "The Emperor's New Clothes," when an entire kingdom was convinced that despite naked truth, they all agreed that His Majesty's new clothes were all the rage -- the living end! How often do we see our fellow citizens jump into line like lemmings to the sea, and how often do we accept the opinions of others as incontestable fact? We think you would agree that the fashion mavens have accomplished that, much to the chagrin and disappointment of the fully two-thirds of the American public that cannot fit into the clothes they market.

It's time that we listen to ourselves and stop listening to what is really just other people's opinions telling you what to think. This brings us to our first, and most important, question that we will ask of you this lesson: Who are you losing this weight for? Is it for you? Is it for someone else? Are you losing it because you want to feel better, or do you simply want to lose a few pounds for a swimsuit that is calling your name?

The right answer -- and in this case there is a right answer -- is: FOR YOU. You must only lose weight for you. If you are not losing the weight for you, then you might as well grab a gallon of Baskin-Robbins and go sit in a corner with a big spoon and a TV remote control. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks you should do. You must commit to losing the weight only for you.

If losing the weight will make you happy, then that is the biggest reason for you to lose the weight. Sure, losing weight for health reasons is always good and noble, but the main reason we want to help you to lose weight is because it will make you happy. See, that's how the Law of Attraction works. It is all about what you desire; what will cause you to be happy. This, by the way, is not greedy... no matter what the Nay Sayers say. (And they DO love to say, say, say!) This is the Wonderful Law of Attraction, and to be able to create whatever life you want for your self is the Universe's greatest gift to you.

DOWN GO THE POUNDS (OR KILOS!)

We were at a Wellness of the Mind retreat and we talked about the Law of Attraction and losing weight. There were many people there who lived their life through the Law of Attraction and, as always, there were people new to the LOA, and the usual weight loss questions were posed.

Weight loss through the Law of Attraction will take some of you a shorter amount of time, and for others it may take a little longer. It all depends on your mindset. LOVE yourself, ENJOY yourself, YOU are a wonderful person who creates your Universe. Isn't that powerful? Your own body regenerates every second. You are a part of that. YOU can regenerate your body to be what you want, you can!

Maybe this is the week that you have a night that you treat yourself for just being you: The you that you are right now, and think about all the things that make YOU happy and joyous.

A doctor once asked Beth if she exercised and she said, "I walk about a half a mile each day." The doctor replied, "Is that all? You need to exercise AT LEAST a mile each day!" Beth looked at the doctor and said, "Is that all? Are you kidding me? I didn't move at all before. This half-mile is a big deal for me. When I am darn good and ready to go a mile, when I FEEL like I WANT to, then I will. I know that a half-mile is better than none at all, and my body knows it. Don't make me try to feel bad. I'm proud of myself!"

Remember to continue doing what is working for you. Just those little steps help immensely over a year's time, and if that 'normal' mind is feeling deprived, eat one bowl of popcorn instead of two, or eat half a candy bar instead of a whole one and save the rest for a couple of hours later. Your 'normal' mind will be appeased.

Listen to your body before you eat something. Sometimes it isn't hungry, but we feed it anyway. ENJOY every bite! Try not to rip-snort through a whole meal in ten seconds flat. ENJOY every little thing that you put in your mouth and be thankful for that wonderful body of yours. You created it with help, and you can fine-tune it just as easily.

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Law of Attraction - Relationship Success Tips

2010-03-10T05:46:00.001-08:00

Law of Attraction is a Universal Law, thus it impacts every part of your existence, including your love life. If dysfunctional or otherwise unsuccessful relationships are your pattern, do not give up hope. It's easy to feel scared, mistreated, or even cursed if you've had a series of partnerships that did not work out according to your plans. However, there is great news. With a little guidance, you can experience true love and have the relationship of your dreams.

Here are a few tips to get you started:

* Don't fear loneliness.

Many people obsess about finding the right person because they fear growing old alone. Fear is a creative thought, as all thoughts are, and you won't like what it creates for you. Being alone is something you should embrace rather than fear. If you fear it, you will disallow Law of Attraction manifestations and potential lovers may be scared away by your noticeable neediness. Your desire for a relationship must be a pure desire, not a desperate yearning based on fear of lack.

* Be happy before the relationship.

If you are thinking "I will be so happy when I find the love of my life," you're missing a piece of the puzzle. Happiness attracts happiness, so do whatever it takes to feel good now. It is never the job of another person to make you happy. In fact, the relationship will suffer immensely if both parties are not already happy with themselves.

* Tame your expectations.

Disappointment is around the corner if you expect your partner to meet all of your needs, do things the way you think is right, make changes at your request, and meet a lot of other expectations that are firmly set in your mind.
You'll find that success comes easier when you enter a relationship with the mindset of what you can bring to it rather than what you can get from it. Unless you've reached full enlightenment and spiritual mastery, you are a work in progress. Therefore, you have plenty of room to become the best person that you can be for the relationship. Let this always be your focus.

* Deeply know the person you are dating.

Unhappy relationships often stem from a failure to learn and understand each other while dating. Pay attention to a potential mate's character by observing how they interact with the world, not just how they interact with you. You may want to keep looking if you've found a person who is currently pleasant to you, yet they speak harshly to their parents, break the law, lie to employers, disrespect colleagues, and/or shirk responsibility for their children. After all, everything a person thinks and does is a reflection of where they are on their path in life right now.
Although it can be tempting to think that they will be different with you, this is not likely to prove true. When a person shows you who they are, believe them. And most importantly-do not assume that they will change for you.

* Fully accept your partner.

Once you've chosen to move forward in a relationship with someone, fully accept them for who they are. Accepting is evidence of pure love. And pure love summons Law of Attraction to manifest positive circumstances in your life. A lack of acceptance, on the other hand, is a breeding ground for unhappiness. Relationships are simply not fulfilling when either partner feels that they cannot follow the path that feels natural to them.

* Change yourself instead of your partner.

Your "work" is always to be the best you that you can be. This self improvement will benefit both you and your relationship. The more you realize that you are every bit as perfectly imperfect as your mate, the less time you will have to try changing the other person. Demands to change are usually met with resistance because humans value freedom above everything else. That resistance may eventually take the form of resentment that leads to a partner seeking freedom outside of the confines of the relationship.

If you find yourself constantly demanding changes from your partner (no matter how large or small), this means that you have work to do on yourself. Work on your ability to unconditionally love and accept the person if you want to remain in a relationship with them. Law of Attraction will respond to a positive thought of love with more positive thoughts of love. And as you accumulate loving, positive thoughts, you will allow the Universe to manifest positive improvements in your relationship.

* Change your thinking.

Because individuals are so different, there will always be things about your significant other that seem less than ideal. You may hate it when your partner leaves toothpaste in the sink, tinkles on the toilet seat, or drinks out of the orange juice container. It is fine to let the person know what bothers you, but your work is really to change how you look at it. Remember, the problem is not what you are observing. You feel annoyed, angry, or upset because of what you are thinking about what you are observing. Changing the other person is an uphill battle, but changing your thoughts is completely doable.

If you will offer thoughts of gratitude and have a renewed outlook, Law of Attraction will bring you more reasons to appreciate. Instead of thinking "I hate it when he leaves the toilet seat up," try thinking "I'm perfectly capable of putting the toilet seat down myself." Instead of thinking "She spends too much time working and not enough time with me and the kids," try thinking "I love her for trying so hard to balance work and family."

* Know when to let go.

You do yourself and your partner a disservice by remaining in a relationship that is full of unhappiness, anger, pressure, arguing, and resentment. Those resistant thoughts and feelings disallow Law of Attraction manifestations, thus negatively impacting your life experience in more areas than just your love life. It is wonderful to do all that you can to accept your partner, but you should also have the courage to leave when you've exhausted your efforts. Love yourself and the other person enough to let go when necessary.

* Re-evaluate how you measure relationship success.

Be wary of confusing success with longevity. Countless relationships endure the test of time, despite the fact that one or both partners live in complete misery. That type of longevity indicates tolerance, not success. Measure success by how satisfied you are with the person you have become in the relationship. Are you growing as a person by paying attention to who you are in relation to challenges that arise with your partner? Are you maintaining a positive vibration that allows Law of Attraction to manifest your desires? You should be co-creating a beautiful life with the person you love rather than simply hoping to reach a certain number of years together.

Nea is the founder of Self Improvement Saga. She specializes in teaching the art of joyful living through the Universal Laws. Visit self-improvement-saga.com for life-changing, Law of Attraction based self improvement ideas.

The Secret to Manifesting Wealth

2010-03-10T03:05:00.000-08:00

What is the Key to Manifesting Wealth?

You easily manifest whatever you believe in and for which you have the correct frequency vibration. These two ingredients are often overlooked because they are not an obvious part of the commonly quoted formula:

Visualize
Ask
Allow

Yet, you will not manifest anything that you don't believe in no matter how great a visualizer you are, and not matter how much effort you expand in asking. Belief is an important component in the last part, Allowing. You know this to be true.

Didn't you ever watch a movie in which an average guy seemed to win the most popular girl and you knew that something was wrong? Why didn't you believe that he could win the girl? Because he didn't believe it. And then, when she seemed to be flirting with him wasn't it for some other motive? Either she was trying to make the captain of the football team jealous, or she was trying to make him look like a fool. Isn't that true?

Yet, if the average guy is brilliant, appreciative and courageous as was the hero in The Transformers then we can believe that he can win the beautiful girl. What's the difference? In The Transformersbelieves that he is deserving. He is focused and unrelenting without being creepy. As Napoleon Hill says, wealth is like a lover. She needs to be courted.

This brings us to the second part: frequency vibration. This is your energy vibration. If you are often tired and grouchy, and fearful of the future, you are not likely to have the energy vibration of wealth.

How can you change your vibration?

Your energy vibration is set by your feelings. It radiates from your heart, not your mind. But, there is a link because your thoughts affect your feelings.

This is how you change your vibration. You change your thoughts so that you change your feelings. This does require some monitoring of feelings. And, the more attention you give, the more likely you are to achieve whatever you want.

For example, if you don't like your boss and find yourself thinking, "My boss will never give me a raise/promotion." This will affect the way that you do your work and the way that you interact with your boss and it won't bring a positive result.

Instead, write a list of all the qualities that your boss has that you appreciate. It might be a short list at first and that's fine. Just make sure that it's a list you actually believe.

Then, make a list of all the qualities and abilities that you have that make you a great employee. Add to this and the first list as you think of new things.

Read both lists before you go into work in the morning, and during the day if you are going to be interacting with your boss. At the end of the first week you will be ready to write another list. This will be the list of "Why My Boss WILL Give me a raise/promotion."

This change in thinking will change your attitude which is another sign that your energy vibration is already changing. The people around you might recognize the change before you do.

You will know what to do to raise your game and you will know when it's time to ask for the promotion or raise. Don't back down when you get the nudge that it's time to ask. That will be your higher mind sending you the instruction. Any time you back down because of fear you are rejecting your higher mind and it will give you less help in the future.

So, the secret isn't so much a secret as a way of being. When you are being sure and assured you are believing. And, when you are happy at the changes you envision, you will have the matching energy for your desires. If you want to manifest wealth, you must first find it in yourself to emit the energy of happiness and success.

For more reading on this most key idea -- Allowing -- please visit: http://www.mindbridge-loa.com/art_of_allowing.html

7 Strategies to Keep You Focused For Success With the Law of Attraction

2010-03-09T04:53:00.000-08:00

The question I am asked the most about the law of attraction is how to stay focused on your big dream in spite of all the distractions that life throws your way. People want specific strategies to keep you focused for success. I have found the following 7 tips to be extremely powerful in helping me stay focused. You will too.

1. Have a Big WHY. This is important. Unless you have a strong reason reason 'why' you want to manifest something, you will never be using all your energy and putting all your attention on what needs to be done. You will find yourself distracted from the important things. But when your WHY is strong and you are passionate about achieving your dream, you WILL find the strength to face even the most challenging tasks.

2. Write Your Success. Write down your goals and dreams. Spell them out in detail. Be as specific as you can and include every little thing about your dream that you can think of. Putting your dreams down on paper solidifies them in your mind, and transfers your desires to your inner self. Plus, it forces you to think about your dream from angles and perspectives that you might not have thought of before.

3. See Your Success. Visualize yourself having already achieved your dream. In your mind's eye, see yourself living and loving your new future. But don't just imagine the thing that you want. Be sure to put yourself into the picture. Don't just visualize a new car, see yourself actually driving that new car.

4. Affirm Your Success. Reinforce your success by speaking your dreams into reality. Create a powerful set of affirmations that include all of the positive qualities you want to develop in yourself. Use them daily to create those necessary changes that will empower your manifesting ability.

5. Evaluate Your Success. Make sure you are headed in the right direction by pausing and checking the results of your efforts and hard work. Ask yourself some tough questions. "Is my plan working?" "Am I on track?" "What can I do differently to get better results?" Make adjustments in your plans if you need to, but be certain that you are still on track toward your big dream.

6. Take Action Every Day. Action is the only thing on your end of the manifesting process that is moving you forward in the world. Take some kind of action on your dream every single day. The actions you take don't have to big and time consuming, they can be as small as reading an article or looking up a resource. The important thing is to stay in motion, to keep doing something that relates to your dream.

7. Believe In Your SELF. This is the most important thing that you can do. It is critical for your success. In fact, if you do not believe in your ability to change your life, the law of attraction guarantees that you will be right! But the opposite is also true, if you believe that you have within yourself the power to create change, the power to manifest your desires, then the laws of attraction will open up endless worlds of possibility for you to reach your dreams.

Learning how to stay focused is easy... if you are committed to reaching your dream. These seven strategies to keep you focused for success have made a world of difference in my own life, helping me pay attention to what is really important, so that I manifest only those things and situations that are really what I want. They will do the same for you, they will help you unlock your manifesting power and bring your dreams into reality!

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The Secret Laws of Attraction - Achieve Your Dreams by Learning How to Use the Law of Attraction

2010-03-09T04:42:00.000-08:00

Did you notice that practicing the law of attraction from "The Secret" is not really easy?

I certainly did! After watching "The Secret" I was in awe with myself for finally understanding how the universal law of abundance works. I could see myself being able to control what happens in my life: from happiness to health and money, everything was at my fingertips.

But as time went by I noticed that not everything was going according to my liking. Then, I started to be a little depressed especially after seeing other people having success. My frustrations grew on a daily basis until one day when I noticed how far I have wandered from the path of the laws of attraction.

Instead of practicing what I've learned in "The Secret" I spent my time asking why doesn't it work for me and how come it works for others?

I realized then, that by constantly thinking about how the laws of attraction don't work for me, I was actually blocking them from reaching me and from changing my life. I know it sounds a little strange, but bear with me because this is an important point:

Allow yourself to receive! Stop blocking the universal laws with negative and otherwise useless and unproductive thinking!

Another very important thing that I noticed is that you have to give yourself time for the laws of attraction to work for you. Let things develop and don't rush the process, because you'll only end up frustrated.

For example if your dream is to be the owner of a 1 million dollar business, you can't realistically wish for it to happen over night. First things first: you've got to start your business, and then you have to grow it day by day. This process might take a lot of time but eventually you'll get there.

But if you would give up after one or two months, then you'll be certain to fail. The secret laws of attraction will never work if you rush them. Instead they'll do the opposite and you'll attract negative energy from the universe and instead of having a 1 mil dollar business you'll go under.

It is of vital importance for you to realize these two principles which make the laws of attraction work for you:

1. Allow them to reach you!
2. Give them enough time to work for you!

And one more thing: make a priority out of learning more about how to use the secret laws of attraction and how to make them work for you. Because, only by constantly improving your knowledge about the universal laws you'll be able to attract them in your life.

To get a head start in your journey, click on the link below and subscribe to the FREE teleseminar that will teach you about the principles governing the laws of attraction and what you need to do in order to achieve your dreams.

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Secrets of the Law of Attraction

2010-03-09T04:19:00.000-08:00

The law of attraction have been around for many years and is something many of us have heard of and maybe even experienced as the law of attraction works on us and everyone else in the universe without us even knowing it. The publication of "The Secret" has made more people aware of how thinking positively and understanding the law of attraction can make your life better. The law of attraction says that if you think in a positive way about things that they can happen and you can get what you want. This amazing phenomenon has helped people regain their health and healed people who were very ill.

You just have to believe in what you want. All you need is a good attitude in your everyday life. You have to accept that you are the only person who can alter your own reality and alter how you see things in your life. You can use the law of attraction to attract the things you desire into your life just like you would order a sandwich at a sub shop. You ask for what you want and wait for it to arrive. People often make the law of attraction more complicated than it needs to be and think they need to do wacky things like say mysterious chants or use incense to conjure up good luck. You can use the law of attraction in a private and personal way without anyone else knowing it to bring good things into your life. You just need to believe in the goodness of the universe.

Often people have problems understanding and believing in the law of attraction because of the way they were brought up. It is not really acceptable in our society to ask for things like money and other luxuries but the law of attraction says it is a good thing to do. People need to get over their upbringing and cultural issues to use the law of attraction. Another problem people have is that they don't think they really are worthy of getting good things from the universe. Under the law of attraction, we all are worthy of happiness and should have happiness in our lives every day of our lives. These are ideas that take awhile for people to get used to. Once people begin to understand what the law of attraction is and how it works they are happier and more focused on themselves instead of worrying about what others think.

You will be amazed at how the law of attraction can benefit you and improve your life. When you believe that you can get what you want from the universe just by asking you will become one of the many that truly understands and lives the law of attraction and it will be with you forever. The law of attraction has proven itself to be true over and over again in our society. It is more important than ever today that we believe in the law of attraction.

It is not that difficult to learn to use the law of attraction to improve your life. You need to understand the importance of timing, though. By finding out the secrets that have helped others use the law of attraction you can learn to use it too. With the right steps at the right time, the law of attraction can bring a lot of happiness and good things into your life.

Bio: Vlad Stivenson, author of numerous articles about the law of attraction

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